A Season of Grief

Bill Valentine

This distinctive e-book celebrates a long-term, interracial relationship and particulars the on a regular basis struggles of a surviving accomplice attempting to hold on in a radically modified world.

A Season of Grief chronicles the writer’s emotional descent after the violent demise of his accomplice of 21 years. Invoice Valentine’s journal of concern, anger, denial, and loneliness captures the glimmers of hope, moments of serendipity, and mysterious coincidences that emerged from his full-time devotion to grief following the demise of Joe Lopes. Lopes died together with 264 others when American Airways Flight 587 crashed in November 2001 in path to the Dominican Republic. It was the second deadliest accident in U.S. aviation historical past.

He’s a phrase all the time on my lips as I attempt to work him right into a dialog. He’s a reminiscence that I attempt to maintain alive. So sure, on this sense, he’s not gone. However in actuality, he’s. He’s gone as my lover. He’s gone as my life accomplice. He’s gone as my soul mate, the one individual to whom I periodically bared my soul. He’s gone as my finest pal, the one individual to whom I ever hooked up that label. So pardon me whereas I nonetheless dangle on to the notion that he’s not right here with me. Pardon me whereas I cling stubbornly to the insistence that he’s gone.

Valentine’s candid and considerate account of his heartbreaking efforts to make sense of his accomplice’s death–and survive in a world with out him–is by turns, humorous, horrifying, sobering, and shocking. Within the 9 months following the tragedy of Flight 587, Valentine finds each waking second of his life affected by his accomplice’s absence–from mundane family chores to main life selections. A Season of Grief is a narrative informed in darkness and lightweight, of harm and therapeutic, love and loneliness, however largely, of a person who learns to reside together with his accomplice’s absence by way of the persistent, shocking proof of his presence.

Our job on earth is to reside with uncertainty, ambiguity, and hope. We’re given a restricted device set however one, for my part, that is adequate for the job. Ample to permit us to be engaged in life-to love, grieve, work, play, rejoice, and despair. We’ve a outstanding capability to rebound and develop. We’ve been granted the capability for marvel and laughter–especially at ourselves. These final two presents have been bestowed generously on Joe and he, in flip, taught me how very important they’re.

Making a powerful case for homosexual marriage, A Season of Grief chronicles Valentine’s struggles to be acknowledged as a surviving partner, together with a historic lawsuit with Lambda Authorized Protection and Schooling fund towards the New York State Staff Compensation Board. Valentine and Lopes took each conceivable step to formalize their relationship, together with New York Metropolis Home Partnership, however the Staff Compensation Board and a New York State appeals court docket refused to acknowledge Valentine as a authorized surviving partner.

Grief would not include a set of directions. However A Season of Grief can assist information you thru the lonely journey that follows the demise of a liked one. Valentine’s memoir is a testomony to the therapeutic energy of actuality and the enduring nature of affection.